Monday, October 6, 2008

COEXIST XII - Small Injustices

I need to learn to COEXIST with small injustices. I have always had a sense of righteous indignation when it comes to children and that is why I became a special education teacher. Other than that, as a child and young adult I was a tolerant, go-with-the-flow kind of person. In my mid-thirties, no longer having any choice, I learned to feel anger, rage and disappointment. Ever since then I've had much more difficulty handling anything I find unfair or unjust. I struggle with it and pray about it and think about Jesus famously overturning the money changer tables in righteous indignation. Does that mean we can do that too?
At work my frustrations are in advocacy for my students, yet time after time I have been slapped down for those legitimate concerns, so I go to work telling myself to keep my big trap shut. When my former church planned to move to another community I became the unwitting spokesperson in the fight against it, but ultimately put in my place when they moved anyway. I've been an incessant letter writer and have sometimes regretted my words (or the fact that they were in writing!) My poor husband has received more than his fair share, but fewer and fewer as the years go by, so I've made a little progress.
This leads to the weird thing that happened today: In our city there has been a controversial plan to build a lifestyle center/shopping center. Its entrance would be near my neighborhood, so petitions were started and outrage expressed at council meetings. I wasn't entirely against it. Last week signs against the issue were placed at both entrances to my development as well as on over a dozen front yards. Our association has deed restrictions that are fairly rigid and everyone likes it that way because they enhance the appearance of the neighborhood. Well, one of them is NO SIGNS!. So I got my panties in a twist about how one particular person could overrule the deed restriction and decide that he could speak for all of us. I couldn't stand the thought of looking at all those signs for another month so ---you guessed it ---I wrote a letter. I edited it several times into a more polite and unoffensive one too! It said, as secretary for the association (which I am ) I was reminding them that signs are not allowed. I could have left it at that but noooooo - I had to get my two cents in saying that signs at the entrances purport to speak for all of us and each voter has the right to their own opinion and vote. I also added something about all the lesser complaints that had been heard at meetings over the years and that if we make exceptions now then we can expect to continue that precedent blah, blah, blah.
In the darkness of night I put them in the offenders' mailboxes last night. This morning as I drove to work I wondered if any signs would be taken down by the time I got home. Then - when I got to work I checked email and saw that someone had informed me that the whole project has been canned!!!!! Today! The same day I sent my letter! The day I just had to spout off!
Is God trying to tell me something???
PS - all the signs are still there. :(


Kelly Jene said...

Ah geez, Diane, that stinks! I've had situations that seem to implode on me like that too. I write letters too. :) We are alike, aren't we?! I've been planning an email (today's letters) to the new owner of my van. Trying to figure out some diplomatic way to tell her she angered me and to grow up. I don't know if I should though, seeing as how things may end up getting legal. Oy.

Big hugs to you my friend!

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

You know MERCURY is Retrograde which means Communication is really screwed up during this time....So, it figures that you would wrote that letter and then get the email AFTER about the scratching of that project. (lol)
They say that one should just go to bed during a MERCURY RETROGRADE...well, that is now only anothder 10 days away....It goes FORWARD again on October, keep those letters NOT-coming! LOL!

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

"....WRITE..." My fimger slipped oveer to the "O"....Mercury rearing it's ugly head, once again...!

Ruth Hull Chatlien said...

Well, if nothng else, your letters will be good reminders for the future. You're on record now if the issue comes up again. So it wasn't a wasted effort.

CJM-R said...

I admire you for speaking up. Rule breakers make me crazy, too. And as Ruth said, it is a good reminder for the next time.

Anonymous said...

I continually put my foot in my mounth. Hope this works out for you!