A therapist said to me - after hearing the details of my dilemma - sometimes you just have to surrender.
What the $#%&*?? I'm paying you $150 an hour for that!
Surrender sounds like a weakness, but in reality it takes an enormous amount of strength to actually achieve true surrender to something that you believe unfair, unjust, wrong - whatever it is that you're cemented to heart and soul.
Surrender is the hardest lesson I've learned.
I pray a lot. And when God tells me to surrender through His silent screaming voice in my head - or He sends a human messenger - what do I do? I fight and scream and kick and have tantrums, for months, maybe years. I have to go to time-out repeatedly and still I do not get my way.
When I am rinsed of my duality
a small piece of purity appears
in my soul, on my skin.
1. Sometimes in life you just have to surrender
he says, and then I revolt in a bloody sound-off to God.
2. I Surrender All - the singer sings from the box
in my living room and in a providential moment
I listen, slack-jawed.
3. Sunday morning arrives. Yes, Mary surrendered.
And I halt my inner tantrum. I get it.
Abandon, acquiesce each living second
until it hurts a lot less.
It was never up to me anyway.